Gerhard Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 I was so motivated to get the hobby up and going again, joined a few group builds as well, BUT, life had different plans. In between getting things ready for my daughters past wedding on 07/05/2017, I still managed to fight with the 1/48 Sabre on a on and off basis. Then came the 31st March. My brother in law attempted suicide. This shook the foundations of our family. He is my wife's rock since her dad passed a number of years ago. In ICU for 5 weeks, things were touch and go and we dreaded every phone call received. Onto 07/05/2017. My daughters wedding, what a brilliant occasion that was. Of course I was sad giving my daughter away, but also glad for her. Tuesday morning 09/05/2017 I get a phone call from my wife. Her mother was taken up in hospital at 03:00 am that morning. We were very confused, I mean, fit as a fiddle just 2 days ago. She rushed through to be at her bedside. The same afternoon I go visit after work. I could see the old lady was in pain, but it was being managed and she looked ok, a bit uncomfortable, but ok. Wife says she will stay for the night to be there for her if needed and I head off home. Mom in law went in for a minor op that morning, and into ICU afterward. Come 18:00 on 10/05/2017, I get a call. I better rush to hospital to pay my last respects. At 19:47 she let out her last breath. The funeral is today. How I managed to just balance, work and these life events is beyond me. I just want it all to go back to normal again. A lot of sad days ahead, my mom in law was my wife's everything, so tough times ahead still. Phew, I needed to vent and put this down in writing. If the mods feel it is out of place, you may delete this post. At least I feel a bit better now. Cheers Gerhard Tinbanger, Bill Cross, mpk and 5 others 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Citadelgrad Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Gerhard, this is terrible. You are in my thoughts and prayers. mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gazzas Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Gerhardt, My condolences. I have no words of wisdom. A lot of your May was like my January, so I understand the need to vent. mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LSP_Kevin Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 A tough time for all involved, Gerhard, but it sounds like you're getting through it. My condolences to you and your family for your loss. Kev mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reconspit Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 ...my condolences, i'm very sorry..., hang tough mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alaninaustria Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Sad to hear that, my condolences to you and your family! Sometimes life throws a few curve balls our way... Cheers Alan mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LSP_Mike Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 My condolences, and prayers for better days ahead. mpk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mpk Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 I was so motivated to get the hobby up and going again, joined a few group builds as well, BUT, life had different plans. In between getting things ready for my daughters past wedding on 07/05/2017, I still managed to fight with the 1/48 Sabre on a on and off basis. Then came the 31st March. My brother in law attempted suicide. This shook the foundations of our family. He is my wife's rock since her dad passed a number of years ago. In ICU for 5 weeks, things were touch and go and we dreaded every phone call received. Onto 07/05/2017. My daughters wedding, what a brilliant occasion that was. Of course I was sad giving my daughter away, but also glad for her. Tuesday morning 09/05/2017 I get a phone call from my wife. Her mother was taken up in hospital at 03:00 am that morning. We were very confused, I mean, fit as a fiddle just 2 days ago. She rushed through to be at her bedside. The same afternoon I go visit after work. I could see the old lady was in pain, but it was being managed and she looked ok, a bit uncomfortable, but ok. Wife says she will stay for the night to be there for her if needed and I head off home. Mom in law went in for a minor op that morning, and into ICU afterward. Come 18:00 on 10/05/2017, I get a call. I better rush to hospital to pay my last respects. At 19:47 she let out her last breath. The funeral is today. How I managed to just balance, work and these life events is beyond me. I just want it all to go back to normal again. A lot of sad days ahead, my mom in law was my wife's everything, so tough times ahead still. Phew, I needed to vent and put this down in writing. If the mods feel it is out of place, you may delete this post. At least I feel a bit better now. Cheers Gerhard Hi Gerhard. Very sorry to learn of all this mate. i get it. The only thing to do is keep getting up every morning. "Normal" will now be different. 5 weeks in ICU? ICU's a tough place to be. I always remembered this line, and it helped. "lift up your hearts, all will come right." Winston Churchill. Good luck, mate. Gerhard, Tinbanger and Jeff 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerhard Posted May 19, 2017 Author Share Posted May 19, 2017 Thanks for all the wishes guys. Funeral is now done and dusted. Was a very good sermon with some very good advice. Nice place to be, this forum. Tinbanger, Tnarg, Jeff and 3 others 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reuben L. Hernandez Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 My sincerest condolences to you and your family at this time. My prayers to you and yours and for better times ahead. God bless . Reuben mpk and Gerhard 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BiggTim Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Wow, that is a tough week! Makes mine seem easy. Gerhard and mpk 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Out2gtcha Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Sorry to hear about this, my condolences. Yes, life does get in the way.................my father passed the the month before last with dementia, and it was a devastating time that consumed the whole family, and all other lighter aspects of life get put on hold. I can see where your coming from. Chin up, and know there will hopefully come a day where the modeling MoJo will be back in full force, and modeling will just begin again out of the blue. mpk and Gerhard 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Southern Bandit Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 So sorry to hear this Gerhard ... and I thought I'd had a tough year health wise.Very sorry to hear this, losing someone is very very tough and takes good time to deal with, my thoughts are with you and your wife who was lucky enough to be there with her as she passed away.In many ways the funeral should give closure though and the emotional healing for you and wife will begin, it wont be easy, might take time, but trust me my friend, been there and it will happen ... life continues and we never forget those we lost, just remember with fond memory's ... the sadness and grief will dissipate.Hope your Brother in law gets best possible support too.Nothing wrong with your venting here, this is one of the best mature and excellently moderated sites I've ever visited on the internet, we all feel your pain and grief and like to share in wishing things improve in the future. All the best for the future Gerhard and family, get back to the scale modelling when you are ready. Tnarg, mpk and Gerhard 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lothar Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 All I can do is to say how sorry I am for your situation and to wish you the strength to overcome these difficult and sad times. Lothar Gerhard and mpk 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Texan Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 So sorry for your loss, Gerhard. What an up/down emotional time for you and your family. I give you these verses in hopes they will comfort and give you peace that the Lord only can. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you. When you cross rivers, you will not drown. When you walk through fire, you will not be burned, nor will the flames hurt you. Isaiah 43:2 In Christ we can come before God with feedom and without fear. We can do this through faith in Christ. Eph. 3:12 He heals the broken hearted and bandages their wounds. Psalm 147:3 Give all your worries to him, because he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7 God is our protection and our strength. He always helps in times of trouble. Psalm 46:1 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death, sadness, crying, or pain, because all the old ways are gone. Rev. 21:4 Hang in there Gerhard, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Jeff, Tnarg, Gerhard and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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